The Power of Neutrality

Your kid is looking to see your reaction to everything. Remember when your little Suzzie was one, just learning to walk, and she looked back at you every 5 steps to see if you were watching? Her eyes asked: Can I keep going in this direction? Do you like my waddle? Are you proud of me? Your teen is saying these same things!

Truth: Kids are meant to test boundaries, and we all know they need you to help them. But, what most people don't realize is that they WANT you to help! Yes, almost all students want to know: Can I keep going in this direction? Do you like my waddle? Are you proud of me? Well, maybe not waddle - maybe more like: Do you like my boyfriend? 
Your child is constantly looking back at you for your approval. This is the reason why it is so hard to help your kid with homework, making a plan, or honestly, anything to do with school. Most students associate anything school with making my family proud of me. 


What I Suggest: First, recognize, you are in a tough position. You are the guide to your child's emotions. Your approval means everything, and your disappointment is the universe! Now that you have the power of awareness, you now are ready to take hold of the power of NEUTRALITY! If you want to work with your son or daughter on homework, planning, checking grades, etc. you have to be neutral. You will not get far if every success is "incredible" and every set-back is "awful". Give all feedback in a neutral tone: the good and the bad!



Reply to this post with a typical challenge you are having and I will help you reframe your language from having an emotional charge to supernaturally NEUTRAL!